How to Communicate in a Relationship
Every couple experiences challenges and pressures at one point in their relationship. It's rare for a couple not to run into a few bumps along the way. It is important to note that the success of relationships depends on the couple's will to learn how to manage these bumps and keep their love life going. Moreover, these challenges are what make a relationship stronger, but to some, it is the breaking point. Unfortunately, a lot of couples break up because of their incapability to solve their relationship issues. Recognizing relationship problems ahead of time gives you a better chance of getting past them. Learn to hang in there, tackle the problem, and learn how to work through that complex issue.
As discussed in the previous blog, one of the main sources of relationship conflicts is the lack of communication. This is the most common problem where all other relationship-related issues stem from. Similarly, author Gerald L. Nardella portrayed how impactful poor communication is in a relationship in Playing Hurt. At first, it was only poor communication, but then more issues arose because they could not solve the main problem, which almost ended the relations of the main characters.
If you are experiencing the same with your other half and looking to remedy this problem, this post is for you. A healthy romantic relationship is always characterized by good communication, meaning speaking openly and directly to one another. But, what does healthy communication look like? How can you improve your communication with your other half? Hence, today, we are going to tackle the ways to effective communication in a relationship.
Don't Try to Read Their Mind
Sometimes in a relationship, you can tell how your other half feels just by looking at them. You think you just know every aspect about them; however, that is not always the case. As much as you know them and think you understood what goes in their head, you are not a mind reader. And you shouldn't have to be. Assumptions are the termites of relationships. Communication goes awry when one expects the other to pick up on hints, innuendos, and veiled messages. Ask your partner if you're not sure what they're feeling or saying, and this goes for you as well. Making an effort to ask them what they feel enables openness and honesty. Furthermore, taking nonverbal cues is a great way to open up a conversation. Take note of their bodily gestures and facial expression.
Tell Them What You Need, Feel, and Want from Them
Communication in a relationship, at its core, is about mainly connecting through verbal, written, and physical skills to fulfill your partner's needs. It is not just about small talk; it's about understanding their point of view, offering support, and letting them know you on their back all the time. However, the mentioned above will be unattained if one of you doesn't speak up. Communication is a two-way street. A relationship is not a one-person show as they all say it takes two to tango. So, if you have an indecisive feeling, then sit down and talk it out with your partner. Tell them how a particular situation makes you uncomfortable.
Better relationship communication is clear, concise, and transparent. Be honest and try to express it in a healthy way because it's unhealthy to say you're okay when you're not. Being direct is always better than being passive-aggressive. Both of you must make an effort to understand one another better and alleviate some miscommunication.
Listen to Your Partner
Ultimately, no relationship is perfect, which means there's always room for improvement. Work together with your partner to figure out how you can maintain a healthy relationship and stay on the same page. You have to be honest, direct, kind, and thoughtful as you can, and they will listen. So, do the same. Listen when they talk and comprehend what they're conveying. With so many issues, obligations, and devices pulling at you from every direction, it can be downright difficult to listen to your partner. But to have a healthy and thriving relationship, it’s critical to truly listen to your partner with empathy and generosity. Listening is a very important part of effective communication in a relationship. There will be topics that can be difficult for them to express; you might find it helps make them comfortable talking it with you. Establish an open, non-defensive, and relatively relaxed environment to encourage your partner to talk openly and honestly.